The Ultimate Intimacy Program
Twelve weeks of intensive, personalised work with me, six months of live support, and lifetime access to everything I have built. Six private sessions, two written clinical reports, a fortnightly live Q&A, a guided pelvic floor training app, and the full program and resource library, so you know exactly what is happening and exactly what changed. This is for men who are done managing erectile difficulty, timing they cannot control, low desire, performance anxiety, worries about size, or shame and compulsion around porn, masturbation, fantasy or fetish, and for men who simply want more sex and better sex. Whatever brought you here, you want it properly resolved, by someone trained to see the whole picture.
If this sounds familiar, this program was built for you
You are still attracted to her. You still want this. Somewhere along the way, though, sex stopped feeling simple. Maybe you started bracing for it before anything even happens. Maybe it is over before either of you is ready. Maybe the desire itself has gone quiet, or you want it more than she does and that gap has started to feel like a verdict on you.
You have tried the pill, or slowing down, or just not bringing it up. Something worked and felt hollow, or nothing worked at all. The GP conversation went nowhere in four minutes. And the advice online is written by people selling supplements.
The reason none of it held is that sexual response, whatever shape yours takes, is a response, not a mechanism. It runs on your nervous system, your attention, your sense of yourself, and what is happening between the two of you. Treat one of those and the others pull it back. Twelve weeks is how long it takes to work on all four properly, with someone qualified watching, whether what brought you here is erectile difficulty, timing you cannot control, low desire, a gap between what you want and what she wants, or performance anxiety that shows up before you even get to bed.
Why this works when other things have not
Most of what you have tried treated one piece of the problem. Here we look at all of it: your body, your mind, your history and your relationship, and we work out which one is actually driving yours. If something needs a medical look, you will hear it from me straight away.
You will not be guessing whether it is working, either. We measure where you are at the start, build a plan on what the numbers show, and measure again at the end, so you can see the change on paper as well as feel it.
What's included
Six Private Sessions With Me
Valued at $1,750At intake, weeks two, four, six and eight, and week twelve. The first and last run ninety minutes, the rest sixty. Just you and me, every time. No handover to an associate, no starting your story again. Online, or in person in Brisbane and on the Gold Coast.
Two Written Clinical Reports
Valued at $2,000Validated clinical questionnaires, completed at intake and again at week twelve. I score and interpret each round myself and write you a proper report, delivered a few days after each session, the way you would get results back after an MRI. You will not be guessing whether it worked. You will have it in writing, twice.
The Empowered Man System, Yours for Life
Valued at $1,500My complete program, fully unlocked from day one. Eleven modules that take you from breaking the anxiety cycle to real control through mindful masturbation and edging, from body image and the size question to desire, fantasy and erotica, and from toys and position mastery to staying sexy well into your seventies. Workbooks and guided exercises you can return to for years.
Six Months of Fortnightly Live Q&A, Plus Your Training App
Valued at $880Live group calls with me every second week for six months, held in a private members' space, where I teach, troubleshoot, and answer whatever comes up. Use any name you like, camera off, microphone off. Send your question in advance and you never have to speak. Every call is recorded. Alongside it you get my guided training app: a six-month pelvic floor and sexual awareness protocol I designed for men, built from the same clinical work I do in my sessions. It guides you every day and holds you accountable to the practice, opening one stage at a time so the foundation is built properly rather than rushed.
The Full Resource Library
Valued at $500A structured CBT plan for performance anxiety and body image, mindfulness and downregulation practices, the complete self-assessment and quiz library, plus reflective journals and habit trackers. Yours for life alongside the program.
A Partner Session, Only If You Want One
Valued at $300 · OptionalAvailable if it suits you, and completely ignored if it does not. Plenty of men do the whole program without anyone else knowing, and that works perfectly well. If you are single, or you would rather keep this private, nothing about the program changes. The option simply sits there unused.
A GP Letter, If It Would Help
Valued at $200 · OptionalNot every concern needs a doctor, and for many men this one does not. Where your assessment suggests a medical review is worth having, I write a doctor-to-doctor letter setting out the clinical picture, with a short guide to what to say and which investigations are reasonable to ask for. Most men never get past the four-minute version of that conversation. If you need it, you will.
Direct Access Between Sessions
IncludedThings come up on a Tuesday night, not on the day of your appointment. You can reach me between sessions across the twelve weeks and you will not be waiting a fortnight for an answer.
My commitment to you
We measure at intake with validated clinical instruments, and we measure again at week twelve with the same ones. If you have done the work and your scores have not moved, I keep working with you at no further charge until they do.
I can offer that because we measure, so neither of us has to guess.
What the twelve weeks actually look like
Week One
Assess and planA ninety-minute intake session covering your history, what you have tried, and where things stand. You then complete the assessment battery, and a few days later I send your first written report, the same way a specialist sends results after any other test. From there you have a clear plan and know which of the four is driving yours.
Weeks Two to Five
Take the pressure offWe work on the anticipation and the bracing first, because nothing else moves while those are running. This is where most men notice the first change, and it is usually not the one they expected.
Weeks Six to Nine
Rebuild the responseArousal, attention, and the physical work, in the right order. If you have decided to use the partner session, this is usually where it fits best.
Weeks Ten to Twelve
Consolidate and measureWe make it durable rather than situational. At the ninety-minute closing session we re-run the assessments, and a few days later you receive your second written report, comparing your numbers against where you started. You leave with that report and a plan for the months ahead.
Months Four to Six
Keep it goingYour private sessions are complete, but you are not on your own. The fortnightly Q&A carries on, your training app keeps building month by month, and the full program stays open to you for life.
You are in the right place, and in the right hands
Most men who sit down with me start by saying they have never told anyone this. Some have carried it for months, some for years. Nothing you tell me will surprise me, and nothing you tell me will be judged. I have heard it many times before, and I know it can change.
You set the pace. You decide what we talk about, who knows you are doing this, and whether your partner is ever involved. My job is to understand what is really going on for you, explain it in plain language, and stay with you until it is working.
You also deserve someone who genuinely knows this field. I trained in medicine and psychology before specialising in sexology, and I have spent more than twenty years working in sexual health. I teach future doctors as an Associate Professor in Medical Education, I sit on the Executive Committee of the World Association for Sexual Health, and I have published more than 140 academic works in the field.
Most people in this space are certified. Very few are qualified.
If you have read this far, part of you already knows it is time to deal with this properly. That is usually the hardest step, and you have already taken it.
Common questions
Who is this program for?
Men dealing with erectile difficulty, ejaculating too soon or not at all, low desire, a gap between what you want and what your partner wants, or performance anxiety that shows up before anything has even started. It is equally for men who want more from their sex life, men carrying worries about size or their body, men with fantasies or fetishes they want to make peace with, and men who simply feel something is not clicking. It suits the man who wants this resolved properly rather than managed indefinitely, and who is prepared to do work between sessions.
I have already tried other things. How is this different?
Most approaches address one piece. A pill addresses blood flow. An app addresses exercises. A counsellor addresses feelings. This addresses all four systems at once, with someone who can tell whether the cause is psychological or medical, and who will tell you plainly if it is the second and point you to the right help.
What is the fortnightly Q&A, and do I have to speak?
It is a live online group call every second week for six months, where I teach a short piece and then troubleshoot real questions. You do not have to speak and most men never do. Use any name you like, keep your camera and microphone off, send your question in advance, or simply listen. Every call is recorded, so if you miss one or would rather not attend live, you still get all of it.
How does the training app work?
It is a six-month guided protocol on your phone for pelvic floor control and sexual awareness, sequenced the way I would take a client through it in clinic. Each stage builds on the last and opens only once you have done the work in the one before. That is deliberate. Knowing what the pelvic floor does is easy to find online; doing the right work, in the right order, consistently for six months is what changes things, and that is what the app is there to hold you to.
Are the sessions online?
Yes, all sessions are by secure video and you can be anywhere in the world. In-person is available in Brisbane and on the Gold Coast if you would prefer it.
Does my partner have to be involved?
No. This is your program and you decide who knows about it. The partner session is one option among several and it is fine to never use it. Many men work through the whole twelve weeks privately, and single men do the program in exactly the same form. If at some point you want your partner in the room, the session is there.
Do I need to see my GP?
Not necessarily. Many of the concerns men bring to me have nothing to do with a medical problem. If your assessment suggests a medical review would be worthwhile, I will tell you and write the letter for you. If it does not, you will never need it.
Is this confidential?
Completely. There is no waiting room, no referral trail, and nothing goes to your GP unless you ask me for the letter. You choose the name you appear under in the fortnightly Q&A.
Is there a payment plan?
The program is $5,000. If you would like to discuss an alternative arrangement, raise it on your case review and we will work something out.
What happens on the case review call?
Thirty minutes, no charge, and no obligation. I will ask what is happening, what you have tried, and what you want to change. Then I will tell you honestly what I think is driving it and whether this program is right for you. If it is not, I will say so and point you somewhere better.
What if it does not work?
We measure at the start and at week twelve with the same validated instruments, and you receive a written report each time. If you have done the work and the numbers have not moved, I keep going with you at no further charge until they do.
How long do I have access?
The twelve weeks are your time with me: the six private sessions and direct access between them. The fortnightly Q&A and the training app run for six months. The full program, the resource library, your two written reports and the assessments are yours permanently. You can come back to the material in three years if something shifts.
What if I just want the course on its own?
The Empowered Man System is available separately for $1,500, self-paced, with no sessions included. You will find it on the Services page.
Not ready for the full program?
That's completely fine. Here are other ways to work with me: